Hey everyone! Life Coach Carisa here. The holiday season is here—a time filled with joy, connection, and, for many of us, a touch of stress as we strive for that elusive “perfect” celebration. But what if I told you that the magic of the holidays doesn’t come from perfection? Instead, it comes from being present, intentional, and embracing the season in a way that feels meaningful to you.
If you’ve ever found yourself overwhelmed by the pressure of holiday traditions, striving to host flawless parties, or searching endlessly for the perfect gifts, you’re not alone. It’s easy to fall into autopilot routines, chasing a picture-perfect holiday that often leaves us drained rather than fulfilled.
Let’s change that. This year, I want to invite you to pause and reflect on how you really want to experience the holidays—and to let go of the perfectionism that might be holding you back.
Step 1: Reflect on What Matters Most
One of the most empowering things you can do is ask yourself:
- How has my life changed since last holiday season?
- What is most important to me this year?
- What kind of energy and mood do I want to bring into the season?
- How can I go with the flow more easily?
These questions create space to disrupt autopilot thinking and help you manage expectations. They also allow you to reconnect with what truly matters to you.
The Power of Intentionality
Over the years, I’ve learned that the holidays don’t need to be perfect to be beautiful. Life evolves, and so do our traditions. Acknowledging these changes allows us to adapt without feeling disappointed.
For example, my kids are now 23 and 15. The holidays today look much different than they did when they were younger, filled with excitement over Santa Claus and magical surprises. Instead of clinging to those old memories, I’ve chosen to embrace what’s important to me now. This clarity has helped me let go of perfectionism and focus on joy.
Letting Go of the “Right Way”
I used to believe there was a “right” way to do the holidays. If something didn’t go as planned, I’d feel like I’d failed. But I’ve learned to ride the wave of the holiday season instead of trying to control every detail.
For instance, if my adult son doesn’t spend Christmas at home, I could let my mind spiral into sadness. Instead, I choose to reframe the situation: he has his own life now, and I want him to honor what feels best for him—not show up out of obligation.
Similarly, with my teenage daughter, gift-giving is no longer the spontaneous surprise it once was. But instead of feeling disappointed, I focus on her joy in receiving the things she truly wants.
This mindset shift has been freeing. Letting go of the “right way” has created space for gratitude and connection.
Creating Space for Yourself
This year, I’ve decided to create space for myself during the holidays. Here are two small intentions I’ve set:
- Reading a book purely for enjoyment—not for personal growth or work.
- Looking for simple, everyday opportunities to spread kindness, whether through a thoughtful word, a small gesture, or simply being present.
By setting these intentions, I’ve created a holiday season that feels aligned with who I am now.
Managing Expectations and Reaffirming Priorities
Our minds often create tension through perfectionism and unrealistic expectations. This holiday season, I encourage you to pause and examine your mental narrative.
If family relationships are strained, ask yourself:
- Am I expecting something from this person or situation that isn’t realistic?
- How can I focus on what’s within my control instead of what isn’t?
You can’t control how others behave, but you can manage your response. Set boundaries where needed and focus on showing up in a way that reflects your values.
Tangible Tips for the Season
Here are a few practical steps to keep your holidays joyful and stress-free:
- Set priorities. Decide what matters most—whether it’s quality time with loved ones, slowing down, or giving back.
- Embrace imperfection. Remind yourself that the “perfect” holiday doesn’t exist.
- Create new traditions. Let go of old traditions that no longer fit and create new ones that align with your current season of life.
- Be kind to yourself. When things don’t go as planned, remember that your worth isn’t tied to a checklist.
A Season of Joy
The holidays are meant to reflect what brings you joy and connection—not what fits someone else’s standard of perfection. By shifting your mindset and managing your expectations, you can create a season that feels light, meaningful, and uniquely yours.
Take a moment to pause, reflect, and choose how you want to experience the holidays this year. You deserve a season filled with joy, presence, and love—one that celebrates what truly matters to you.
If you’d like to listen to these tips and more check out my video on this topic.
Ready to Transform Your Mindset?
If this message resonated with you, I’d love to support you further. Visit LifeCoachingwithCarisa.com to schedule a complimentary clarity session or learn about my 12-week transformation program. Let’s work together to create a life that feels aligned, empowering, and joyful.
“Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.”
Wayne Dyer