Hey everyone! Life Coach Carisa here. The holidays are a magical time of year, but let’s be honest—they can also feel overwhelming. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in what feels like “survival mode,” just trying to make it through without losing your mind, you’re not alone. I want to explore what survival mode looks like, how it affects us during the holidays, and, most importantly, how to break free from it to reclaim your joy.
What Is Holiday Survival Mode?
Survival mode is like running on autopilot, racing to check every box on an endless to-do list. While it can feel productive, it often leaves us anxious, irritable, and disconnected from the simple joys of the season. For many of us, the pressure to create a picture-perfect holiday amplifies these feelings.
Personally, I didn’t even realize I was stuck in survival mode for years. I was too focused on “handling things” to notice how much I was missing out on truly meaningful moments. Let me share a couple of examples.
A Personal Story: Missing the Magic
One year, my kids wanted to decorate the yard with oversized, inflatable holiday decorations—think glowing, blinking snowmen that seemed to have swallowed a string of LEDs. At the time, I was so attached to the idea of how I wanted our house to look that I dismissed their enthusiasm. Instead of embracing the fun and silliness, I got stuck in perfectionism. Looking back, I realize I prioritized my vision over their joy.
Another year, after weeks of decorating, planning, and cooking, I found myself restless on Christmas Day. Instead of relaxing and enjoying time with my family, I was glued to my phone or sneaking in work on my laptop. My mind simply couldn’t slow down enough to be present.
It took me a while to realize that much of this behavior stemmed from unhealthy programming I’d absorbed in childhood. I’d never learned what a healthy, joyful holiday looked like, so I ended up sabotaging the very moments I worked so hard to create.
Signs You Might Be in Survival Mode
If any of this sounds familiar, here are some common indicators of being stuck in survival mode:
- Restlessness: Struggling to sit still or relax.
- Anxiety: Constantly worrying about whether everything is “just right.”
- Perfectionism: Feeling like nothing is ever good enough.
- Stress and Irritability: Snapping at loved ones under pressure.
- Comparison: Measuring your holiday against others’ Instagram-worthy moments.
If you’re nodding along, here’s the good news: you don’t have to stay stuck.
Small Shifts to Reclaim Your Energy
Breaking out of survival mode doesn’t require an overhaul. Small, intentional changes can make a big difference. Here are a few steps to help you reclaim your energy and joy this holiday season:
- Set Boundaries and Say No Gracefully
You don’t have to attend every event or meet every expectation. A simple “I’d love to, but I can’t this time” can go a long way. - Prioritize Self-Care
Self-care doesn’t have to be elaborate. Whether it’s a five-minute walk, deep breathing before bed, or journaling, find small moments to recharge. - Let Go of Perfection
Remember, no one’s holiday is perfect. Focus on what feels meaningful instead of striving for impossible standards. - Be Present
Put your phone away and soak up the moments that matter. Watch your kids tear into gifts, listen to family stories, and savor the memories being made.
Moving Forward with Intention
The holidays are a chance to slow down, reflect, and approach life with greater intentionality. If you find yourself slipping into survival mode, remind yourself: you are not broken. You’re simply human. With awareness and small shifts, you can create a season filled with joy and connection.
If this message resonates with you, I’d love to invite you to my free virtual training on December 29th: Wired to Survive, Born to Thrive. We’ll dive deeper into recognizing unhealthy patterns and learning how to create a more intentional and fulfilling life. Register now at LifeCoachingWithCarisa.com/training.
Let’s make this holiday season one to truly cherish—not just survive.
If you’d like to listen to these tips and more check out my video on this topic.
Ready to Transform Your Mindset?
If this message resonated with you, I’d love to support you further. Visit LifeCoachingwithCarisa.com to schedule a complimentary clarity session or learn about my 12-week transformation program. Let’s work together to create a life that feels aligned, empowering, and joyful.
“We need much less than we think we need.”
Maya Angelou